What is Grief?

Article submitted by Cynthia Hays, of Hospice of Larimer County. She can be reached at (970) 663-3500.

Grief is the normal and natural response to the loss of someone or something important to you. It is a natural part of life. Following a death or loss, you may feel empty and numb, as if you are in shock. You may notice physical changes as well. Feelings of deep sadness and sorrow are common in grief. Often, people find themselves engaging in behaviors that are different or unusual, or thinking in ways that are unfamiliar. Finding their beliefs challenged in grief, many people experience a kind of "spiritual crisis" following loss.

Types of Grief and Loss

Anticipatory Mourning - When a person or family is expecting death, it is normal to begin to anticipate how one will react and cope when that person eventually dies. Anticipatory mourning is a natural process that enables the family more time to slowly prepare for the reality of the loss.

Sudden Loss - Grief experienced after a sudden, unexpected death is different from anticipatory mourning. Sudden, unexpected loss may exceed the coping abilities of a person. Even though one may be able to acknowledge that loss has occurred, the full impact of loss may take much longer to fully comprehend than in the case of an expected loss.

Complicated Grief - There are times when grief does not progress as expected. Symptoms of depression and anxiety may be prevalent and prolonged. Thoughts, feelings, behaviors and reactions may seem to persist over long periods of time with little change or improvement.

Finding Help for Yourself or a Loved One

There is help and support if you or a loved one is grieving a loss. Counseling and support services can be a guide through some of the challenges of grieving as a person adjusts to their loss. Grief support and counseling can be provided by professionals. Self-help groups are often available and are there for participants to support one another. For more information on grief and loss support, contact Pathways: Programs for Grief and Loss at (970) 663-3500.